They Make You Miserable. Why do You Allow Them to Stay in Your Life?
Posted: Monday, July 18, 2011
by Ingrid Weir
http://www.facebook.com/ingritaweir
Do you have a toxic person in your life? Do you have more than one? You know these people… every interaction you have with them is unpleasant in some way. They are either judging you, beating you down, or simply dismissing you as a person. Why do you keep them in your life?
As a society, I think we are taught on some level, to tolerate these people; as though it were somehow our responsibility to accept their unacceptable behavior. Why? Who made this rule? Why do we continue to abide by it?
The way that I look at it, if you choose to have someone in your life, their presence should make your life better. Of course, the same goes for you making theirs better, as well. If you have someone, who leaves you feeling angry, beaten down, abused, violated, or any myriad of unpleasant feelings, stop being around them!
Now, I know you’re saying, “But I love them.”
I ask you, “Why?” Why do you love them? Is it because they are a family member? An old friend? Why don’t you love yourself as much as you claim you love this person? How much does this person really care for you if they constantly make your life worse by simply being involved in it?
I will tell you, that is not love, and there is no good reason for this. No, granted, if you have more people in your life that seem to be these types, you may, indeed, be the problem. If this is the case, I suggest some serious self-reflection to see why you are making other people miserable around you; because I can almost guarantee you that you are making them feel this way, as well. If it, indeed, is not you, then you need to start all over and get away from those creeps. The only thing worse than being around one miserable person is being around a whole hoard of them.
Your joy is important for your life and for others around you. When your joy is stolen, not only does it affect you, but it also affects all other aspects of your life. It will negatively impact your work, your other relationships, and of course, we know how much devastating stress can be to your physical health.
I challenge you to remove these people from your lives. You can either confront them and tell them why or slowly phase them out of your routine. The reason that people continue to be this way is largely because we allow them to behave badly. If everyone stands up and says, “No, I will not accept your bullying, abusive, and/or negative behavior,” they will have to be held accountable.
The good people of the world need to stand up against these cancers on society and teach others the value of being a good, respectful person. Together, we can improve our lives and the lives of those around us, but the first step is to stand up against them. Do not tolerate this anymore – no matter who it is, let these people know that you deserve respect. You are worth their and your own respect. Do not stand for anything less – ever!
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